Respect vs Disrespect

Respect is earned.

Today went to play table tennis with chubbs after eating breakfast with him and Kai. I had booked the table online and we were punctual at the table, but there were some elderly at the table playing. Though obviously they seen us, they don't look like they were gonna stop.

Hm, maybe they were just trying to finish their game. Nope they weren't keeping points. Were we at the wrong table? So i went to check with the counter, and indeed, it was the right table. So this time, I just asked them and an auntie answered, "this table and the other table are reserved for senior citizens, are you sure you booked it? You got receipt? You got pay anot?" And all sorts of funny questions. So in the end, I just go the counter and get them to print me a piece of paper that clearly stated the time and table I booked. What more can they say? Com'on you want play you book table la, waste my time and had to kill more trees to get the receipt printed.

Yesterday, or weekly in fact, I felt exploited by this relative of mine. Every time, doesn't help out in preparing food, and just sits around waiting to play mahjong, grumbles when lose money, and in fact, none of us likes to play with her, then EXPECTS me to drive her home. Always brag about how good his sons are when I only see them 0-2 times a year (CNY, Ching Ming), why not ask them come pick her up? Brags about her grandchild, when she really is a terror even at a young age of donno what, cos also 0-2 times. Has B.O. (not genetic) since I didn't remember her having that problem when I was younger, so probably clothes never wash or something like that. Stink up the car somemore.. The list probably goes on, but enough grumbling for now. Find it a bother to even talk to her, really donno how to show respect to her sia.. Why should I go the extra mile for her?

Vic also pointed out after I told him bout the table incident, and commented something like not youngsters dowan respect them, but is cause the way they behave. Anyway, he probably only refers to that particular auntie-type SC. They can really be a nuisance, push trolleys to their home, and chuck them by the roadside, beside the bball court/void deck. Blocking people from alighting trains are also them, expects people to give up seats to them when they fit as a fiddle. Don't like other people call them auntie when they call themselves aunties -.-

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Goal setting

Earlier in January this year, I attended the mentoring program training and I had this session where I had to do a goal setting exercise with my mentor-in-training. At that time, I wasn't really sure what I wanted as well, so had to anyhow put up something in the form. Well, it was a career related goal.

Anyhow, since I've acquired this goal around March, I've started to lose my sense of direction and have slacked for a while now. Until a while back, one of my neighbours called yy, a secondary one candidly told me this, "On the first day, my teacher came in, I straightaway told her that she was fat." When you see a "she", being linked with the word "fat", you can imagine the rivalry between them since then.

Of course, if I hadn't been in the mentoring program, I probably would have just laugh off what the youngster said, since I was in the mentoring programming, I felt obliged to say a word of fairness to this poor teacher. I did however make it sound casual and not like I'm reprimanding him. Not sure if it worked though.

Backed to the point, I was asked this question many times "How come I going to teach in a p sch? Is it by choice?". And I really hate to answer this question, cos really, I was given this posting. But to think further to the past, I would also have chosen to go p sch for a personal reason which I cleanly forgotten because many pple have started questioning my beliefs, and it's difficult to stand firm like that. To me, education is not just about attaining the grades.

Many ppl have the preconception that adolescents are rebellious. They probably are, but certainly, from most of them that I have seen so far, they probably just shoot off the words before thinking, and thus hurting the feelings of other people.

To end off with the quote "a thousand miles begins with a single step" of course spoken by a famous person, whom I'm too lazy to go search who (why in the world do we need to know who said that?) . Taking a first step is very important to reaching the ultimate goal, cos by the law of inertia once you start, you will have less willingness to stop.

Haha, how I wish that someday, ppl will quote what I might have said purposely or accidentally, but I don't really want them to quote it with my name, they can own that sentence if they believe in it. Looks are deceiving so sometimes, nonsense do make sense :p