Things to avoid doing

Somehow, whenever you read an article, you find yourself reading the one that contains at least a bit of negative words. This seems to be how human nature works - since it's easier to be negative than positive. Positive things just don't seem to be .

Today's read is from the following website:

Mentally strong people - 13 things they avoid
http://www.forbes.com/sites/cherylsnappconner/2013/11/18/mentally-strong-people-the-13-things-they-avoid/

Below are my thoughts after reading the original article

1. Waste time feeling sorry for yourself
I think it's perfectly normal to feel sorry for yourself. Who can really be unaffected by everything in our surroundings. You can find a way around this though, by setting yourself a time limit, say 5 minutes? After that time, stop thinking about what's unfair to you and if it's within your control, you can do something to perhaps correct the wrong; if it's not within your control, "Next!".

2. Give away their power
You can choose to let people affect how you feel; you can also choose not to let them. 

3. Shy away from change
Change is sometime you cannot control. It's constant. So if you are going to resist change, then you will be left behind. If you change but feels grudgingly about it, it's the same. Learn to adapt.

4. Waste energy on things they can't control
It's pretty obvious. Don't be a control freak. If you are going to feel insecure about things that you cannot control, then you will be an insecure person. No one can provide you the security that you need since it's not within their control. 

5. Worry about pleasing others
The people-pleasers please others but never themselves. Pleasing others to get the approval of others is their main aims. But all these are just empty praises, unless you are able to please yourself. If you are not happy on your own. 

6. Fear taking calculated risks
If you decided that you will be able to take the worst-case scenario of the situation, then the risk is probably worth taking. What can be worse than the worst cast?

7. Dwell on the past
Reminiscing in the past is sweet, if you want the past to be sweeter, then you have to do more in the present so that they will add on to the past. 

8. Make the same mistake over and over
Practice makes perfect. Practice your mistake and you perfect your mistake. 

9. Resent other people's success
I don't know what is the point of resenting other people's success. Are you going to sabotage them so that they fail? If you want to succeed, learn from them, and put in your effort.

10. Give up after failure
Not everything can be as smooth sailing as you like it to be. If you are just going to give up after one try, then you are going to miss out on many things that could happen when you succeed.

11. Fear alone time
Think this probably is only for extroverts.

12. Feel the world owes them anything
Nobody owes you anything, don't take them for granted.

13. Expect immediate results
Think this is thanks to the fast-food culture. Everything thing has to be instant and quick. There are many things that are worth waiting for.



If you notice, each of the 13 points contain negative word as well.